My two boys are 26 months apart. I’ve often felt like it is the perfect spacing. When we got pregnant with Rowan, Chan was 17 months. I envisioned two little boys who played in the mud, wrestled, and slept in bunk beds. They are at those ages now (5 1/2 & 3 1/2) that they play really well together. I love that they each have a playmate, and totally loved the spacing. They are great friends, share a room, bunk bed, toys, etc. As babies, both of my boys were pretty mellow. Once they became toddlers, it was all downhill from there. Busy would probably be the best word to describe both of them. Always into everything, go go go, my way or the highway, very independent. I knew I wanted a bigger gap before we tried for baby #3, but didn’t really think that I wanted more than about 4 years. I needed my sanity for a bit after having two very active little boys. You hear about certain kids growing up, not being able to relate to their siblings because they are so far apart in age. Or how hard it is for the parents to adjust to having a newborn again.
However, I knew if the boys were older before we had another one, they would be such a great, great help. Our friends had a baby not too long ago, and when we went to visit them, Chan was so enthralled with this new baby, it was fun to see how interested he was in her.
Last year when I got accepted into ultrasound school, I knew we would have a bigger gap than we originally planned. I went back and forth about going back to school, but finally decided it was the right decision. I want to be able to support my family if anything ever happened to Marshall, and I know I would be able to do it as an ultrasound tech. Plus, we’ve felt the effects of unemployment and it’s not fun. My program is 2 years, and I’m almost halfway done. I don’t want to introduce a new baby while I am in school because I don’t think that would be fair to our family. In the fall I’ll be doing 32 hours of clinical, 8 credits of other classes, working 1 night a week, and trying to keep up on everything else. When we have another baby, I want to be able to be here for him/her 100%. If we planned to get pregnant when I graduate, and I did happen to get pregnant right away, there would be about 5 1/2 years between Rowan (our youngest now) and the new baby. I feel torn about this spacing, but know that is what is going happen with our family at this point. I’m totally loving school right now, enjoying the boys at their ages and trying to live day by day, but I have to admit that I’m a teensy bit baby hungry. I think if I weren’t in school right now, hubby and I would consider getting pregnant.
What type of spacing do you have with your kids, or are you planning on? Do you like it and why or why not?