Anticipation for my 3rd C-section

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Preparing for my 3rd C-section
Baby girl will be here in about 8 1/2 weeks. I can’t believe how quickly this pregnancy has gone by and at the same time, the days seem to drag as I can’t wait to meet her. She will be born via scheduled c-section and as it gets a bit closer, I find myself being apprehensive and nervous.

 

2 1/2 weeks ago at 29 weeks pregnant.

2 1/2 weeks ago at 29 weeks pregnant.

 

A little bit of background on why I have c-sections:
I don’t progress. My body would prefer to stay pregnant forever. Or so it feels. I was induced a week late with my 1st son. I was only a fingertip dilated when I went in to be induced. They started me on pitocin and the Dr. came in to break my water. It was horrible, painful and I’m glad that time makes you forget pain. After laboring for 4 or so hours, I was begging for an epidural. I was 3 cm dilated and my wish was granted. I was able to relax once I got my epidural, but my son’s heart rate started decelerating. It wasn’t getting better on it’s own, so they stopped my contractions and monitored him for a while. Once his heart rate came back up, they started pitocin again. Two more times throughout the day, his heart rate came down. Each time, it would drop lower and lower and he was obviously stressed out. At 3am the NEXT morning, my OB came in to check me. I had been at 8 cm for about 6 hours and the baby’s heart rate was dropping once again. My OB tried to guide his head down without success. At that point, he recommended a c-section due to the baby being so stressed and the heart rate continuing to drop. After 22 hours of labor, I was exhausted and beside myself. I opted for the c-section seeing how his heart rate kept getting lower. The c-section was horrible. I had been on the epidural for a long time and began sobbing as they made the incision. I could feel it. The anesthesiologist immediately saw this and gave me some sort of drug that made me start to hallucinate. I had an outer body experience where I felt like I was dying and all I could think was that I hoped my husband would take care of our boy. I saw myself on the table and knew that was the end.  It was the most surreal experience and not how I imagined childbirth should be.  He ended up being 9 lbs 1 ounce and was 22 inches long.

 

Chandler Baby

 

Fast forward to my second son. I badly wanted a VBAC (vaginal birth after c-section) and my Dr. told me that if my baby was smaller I shouldn’t have any problem. I went a week over again and ended up scheduling a c-section. I doubted myself being able to have a vaginal birth and all I cared about was having a healthy, alive baby.   The c-section experience was better as a had a great spinal.  Even my pinkies were numb during the surgery.  It was all of the itching over the next 48 hours that drove me crazy, which was a side effect of the spinal.  Between the itching and compression stockings, I didn’t get much sleep while in the hospital.  He was 8 lbs 14 ounces and 20 1/2 inches long with a head that was 2 inches bigger.

 

rowancominghome

 

Obviously there are not a lot of Dr.’s that will let you VBAC after 2 c-sections so I have opted for a 3rd c-section. Sometimes I feel like a failure or that I gave up too easily and I should have fought more for my VBAC. On the other hand, I have two VERY beautiful and healthy boys and after how scary my first experience was, I didn’t want to risk having that happen again.

 

I have to admit that I’m scared for a 3rd c-section. I was 22 and 24 when I had my first two. I’m 30 now and although it’s not old, it’s oldER. This pregnancy has felt harder on my body as well. I’m not one that bounces back well. I rely heavily on pain meds for the first month and really have to take it easy for the full 6 weeks. I bleed for a full 6 weeks too. I always envy those women who only bleed for a week or two and are back on their feet. After my second c-section, I got cellulitis at the incision site. I had the most horrible fever, was so sick and had to have fluid drained by my OB.

 

As much as I’m excited to meet and have this little lady in our home, I’m terrified to have a 3rd c-section. Risks go up with each c-section and I’m honestly really worried about the recovery. I’ve had so many thoughts going through my head that I wish I could have a vaginal delivery to wondering how long I’m going to be in pain afterwards or how long I’m going to bleed.

 

In all honesty, I shouldn’t complain because I am incredibly blessed to be alive and to be able to have babies. It’s the most divine calling and I am truly grateful.

 

But that doesn’t make it any less scary.

 

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Comments

  1. 40

    Never feel like a failure, you have to do what is right for you and that precious baby!
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  2. 41

    I too have had three c-sections. My first son was “aface” coming out nose first instead of back of the head and his heartbeat was doing the same as yours he was 8lbs 81/2oz (one week late). I was scheduled for a VBAC with my second son his head was too big and he would not drop he was 9lbs 4 oz (couple days early). Like you my third was a schedule c-section. I hated having it scheduled as I wanted my body to tell me when it was ready. Everything went fine and she was 8lbs 3 ozs (a week early).

    I agree with the itching I remember it vividly after having my daughter (3rd child) my nose itched like crazy!!

  3. 42

    Here’s sending you positive vibes for your c-section!
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  4. 43

    I’ve had to C-sections and they are never fun. I really wanted to have a VBAC with my second but most of the doctors (including mine) won’t do them here in Oklahoma. Both of my kids were breech anyway so I had no choice but to have a C-section. Good Luck.
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  5. 44

    Aww, I’m sorry that your births didn’t necessarily go as you had wanted them too. But even though the risks go up with each C-Section, also remember in the last 6 years, medical technology has also advanced 🙂 I hope you can feel at peace when you go in to have your princess and that you won’t have any anxiety.
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  6. 45

    Awwww, you really do sound nervous and concerned and I feel for you! It will all be ok and you’ll be enjoying that sweet baby girl before you know it. Hugs!
    Liz @ A Nut in a Nutshell´s last blog post ..Aruba, This Fool’s Paradise

  7. 46
    marissa lee says:

    i never had a c-section and i don’t blame you for being afraid…but leave it in gods hand and everything will be ok…god bless

  8. 47

    Us Nielson girls do NOT progress. 9 days late with Kaden 26 hours of labor I’m SHOCKED they didn’t pressure me to have him c-section sooner. You know your body and you know what’s best. No matter what you decide you’ve got support!! I cannot wait to meet her and mug on her!! Aunt Avry is going to spoil her rotten!
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  9. 48

    I can understand it being scary…it’s surgery! That said, you are a doll, so in shape and fabulous looking…look at that small waist even though you are so far along!
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  10. 49

    Hang in there. I have never experienced a csection but you have to do what’s best for you.
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  11. 50

    I haven’t had a c-section but I can imagine it must have been a very scary/traumatic experience for you the first time around. I’m sad that you won’t get the birth experience you may want and the subsequent recovery is so much harder on you but thrilled that you’ll be adding a beautiful new baby to your family. And it is awesome that she will share a birthday with my oldest son as well. Good luck, mama! Hoping for a speedy recovery for you!
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  12. 51

    I hope it all goes really well for you. You have had nice sized babies. My two were 8 lbs 3.5 oz and 8 lbs even. (I really did not want one smaller than 8 – not that I had any say in the size.)
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  13. 52

    I will be praying for you, Tiff! It sounds like you are definitely making the right decision for you and baby and I can’t imagine going through your first birth experience. The thought of a cesarean makes me super nervous and anxious and I imagine it doesn’t get easier even if you know what to expect. Can’t wait to see little Nova!
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  14. 53

    I ended up having an emergency c-section (footling breech), and I was disappointed because I had planned a natural birth, but in the end, I was just happy that my son and I were okay. I actually had a great c-section, too. I was walking the next morning and 4 days later was shopping for a breast pump at Toys r us, and stopped at the grocery store while my hubby watched our son. 🙂
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  15. 54

    I had a C/S with my first – 10lbs 2ozs and a VBAC with my second 9lbs 4oz and 22.5 inches. The recovery with my second was night and day. I think the best thing you can do for your body is know your options and do what is best for you. That sounds like a c/s, but many drs are doing VBA2Cs. At this point though I am sure you don’t want to switch Drs. You will be fine! Can’t wait to see that little girl!!
    Emily @FamilyNLifeLV´s last blog post ..3 Reasons to go see MONSTERS UNIVERSITY #MonstersU

    • 55

      How come you had to have a c-section with your first? You have BIG babies! I’ve heard that a vag delivery recovery is SO much better. I wish I had researched things better at the first of my pregnancy.

      • 56

        Here is his birth story. I wouldn’t have changed a thing, but I think induction had a lot to do with why we ended up in C/S. http://www.familylifeinlv.com/2012/09/my-1st-sons-birth-story-preeclampsia-induction-turned-c-section.html Since it was pre-e I clearly had to be induced. I refused to be induced with my second baby. I made a deal with the Drs. that if I could go to 40 weeks and allow my body to try to go into labor, if it didn’t happen I would have a c/s again. (Mostly because the thought of another 27 hours of labor only to end up with a c/s upset me.) Baby D’s labor started at 39 weeks 6 days. I was supposed to go in for a c/s the next morning. You will be fine! You make beautiful babies and that is all that matters!! There are lots of products out there that are very helpful post c/s since your last baby. Like the C/S panty (google).
        Emily @FamilyNLifeLV´s last blog post ..3 Reasons to go see MONSTERS UNIVERSITY #MonstersU

  16. 57

    I’ve never experienced a c-section but I hope that this one will be a much better experience for you.
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  17. 58

    Sending hugs and happy thoughts your way! I’m sure you and your baby will get through this spectacularly!
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  18. 59

    sweetie, I had my last baby at 40 and I had a 5 year old with autism and a 2 1/2 year old at the time. You will be fine!
    Maryann´s last blog post ..Vertigo update

  19. 60

    Sending a lot of happy thoughts your way! 🙂
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  20. 61

    You have beautiful babies! I hope all goes according to plan.
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  21. 62

    I had my daughter via scheduled C. I was 40, incredibly tired (like I slept all day and got up for a few hours tired), and she was measuring on at 9 1/2 – 10 1/2 pounds a week before due date with no sign of coming out soon. Doc gave me the option and I took it immediately.
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  22. 63
    Mami2jcn says:

    I know how you feel. I had an emergency c-section the first time around when I was 27. When I was pregnant again the following year, my doctor wouldn’t let me do a VBAC. I still don’t know why. So we had a scheduled c-section which was a lot easier than c-section #1. I had a 3rd c-section when I was 33 and I was scared, but things went fine. I’m 37 now and trying to get pregnant with #4. I’m very nervous about the possibility of a 4th c-section and the fact that I’m “advanced maternal age”, but I’m willing to take the risk.

    Good luck to you! I’m sure everything will be fine.

  23. 65

    I totally get that. I had to have a c-section with my son {emergency, also due to heart rate} and recovery was AWFUL. I’m trying for a VBAC this time, but if I don’t get it I’ll be okay & will just be grateful that I have a healthy child. I hope that your 3rd CS is problem-free and that maybe your body has gotten BETTER about it over time!
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  24. 66

    awww hugs to you. in the end the only that that matters is that healthy baby. U’ll get through it its just those gitters u have to get past Hugs
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  25. 67

    Sending lots of lots of speedy recovery thoughts your way.
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  26. 68

    I had a c section at 34 and I had no issues what so ever. Sending peaceful healing thoughts your way.
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  27. 69

    Sounds like me and you have the same problem delivering naturally.. I had to have two c sections and of course for the rest of my pregnancies as well Good luck!
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  28. 70

    I’m sorry your other births didn’t go as planned but you have 2 beautiful babies to show from it. that’s all that matters
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  29. 71

    I’m sending hugs and happy thoughts your way.
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  30. 72

    I have only had c-sections too; my doctor would have gone for the VBAC but I was worried about not progressing again and then ending up with another emergency one.
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  31. 73

    I’ve had four vaginal births and with each one there is something that I feel I didn’t do quite “right”. Whether you deliver naturally or surgically, with meds or without, at home or in a hospital…I think there’s always something you wish you could have done differently. But if you have a healthy baby, I don’t think there should be any regrets.
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  32. 74

    I didn’t need any sections but I remember how scared I was when my doctor gave me a time limit in the delivery room–12 hours from the time my water broke–and at 12 hours and 1 minute, he would take me in for a section. I made the cutoff! Whew! I hope everything goes very well for you.
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  33. 75

    I would be afraid to have a C-section, only because I’ve never had any sort of surgery before. I will keep you in my prayers as the date approaches.
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  34. 76

    I’ve been scared of this looming c-sec from the day I found out I was pregnant. I think we know it is major surgery and it’s completely natural to be a tad bit freaked out. We just have to trust that heavenly father will take care of us and that we will deliver healthy baby’s. If it helps you feel better Zylie was my easiest recovery and I hardly bled at all, unlike with the boys. 😉
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  35. 77

    I know how scary it can be to have c-sections. I’ve had two and this time around we are aiming for a VBA2C. If you ever decide to try for a vaginal birth again- check out ICAN and VBACFACTS.COM. Great resources – I know mommas who have VBA3C’s and etc. (I don’t know if you plan on more children or not).

    And- I know that a lot of people pull the whole “you should just be glad you are both healthy” but really- that is a BS thing to say to any woman who has had a birth not go as planned or one that left her scarred physically and emotionally.

    • 78
      Tiffany says:

      Marie,
      I think my problem too is finding a Dr. who will let me do a VBAC after 2 c-sections that accepts our insurance. I wouldn’t dare do it at home, I’m too paranoid about complications. We do plan on having one more after this little girl. When are you due and was it hard to find a Dr. that would let you VBAC after 2 c-sections?

      • 79

        There is one doctor in the city I live who does VBA2C’s but I knew about him before I got pregnant this time around and so I didn’t have to call a bunch of doctors. I only knew of him though due to the local ICAN group. This doctor actually works with 3 midwives in his practice and is very natural minded for the most part (he recommends placenta encapsulation- so he’s a rare find in the OB world I believe).

        If our VBA2C goes well- we will probably have our next one at home:) & insurance is always frustrating to deal with when it comes to getting the birth you want. Part of the reason I had a 2nd c-section was because the OB I’m using now- didn’t take the insurance I had at the time. So I had to use someone who was supposedly VBAC friendly- but truly wasn’t.

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